Healing family matters.

Hello dear, a family coming together is a real good opportunity for healing family wounds in ones history. Okay, family matters aren?t that much of a sport for most of you, and this is very logical, as your parents are mostly children themselves on the spiritual adult life scale. So raising children is a bad idea and almost a failure from the beginning. Nothing has changed over the years, and most of you will recognize themselves as being children trying to raise children. The tragedy continues.

 

Let?s start meditating.
The best healing is done when the other part is cooperating. If you can?t ask your parents to help you along with this meditation, it is advisable to ask the help of their higher selves and or work with a picture.

Look the parent in the eye, preferable the right eye. This eye is connected with the female side of the person in front of you. See the soul, the sincere trying of the soul, to be the God possible on Earth, see the God in the person in front of you. Acknowledge the God in front of you, say namaste and bend your head in reverence.
See your parent in the other eye, see the hardship mirrored in this eye, see the hurts, the failures, the wishing good and the bad effects of the good ideas, thoughts, and the wishful thinking. See what your parent really is, a human with failures, nothing more and nothing less.

See what your parent is as a human, trying to learn the things in life just like all of you.
See and don?t judge. It is as it is.

Recognize the child in your parent.
Can you blame a child that it didn?t succeed at a task of an adult that was above it?s reach? Remember, all are children on the road to maturity, just like you, just like them.

Say: I forgive you all what you have done out of misunderstanding, of not knowing, not doing the best you could have done.
They are a product of their society just as you are.

Ask your parent to do the same with you (including the eyes). Let?s ask them to see you as you are, trying to do the best you could to be a good child of your parents, to get attention in one way or the other. Ask them to release you from the burden of being good according to their standards. Ask them to forgive you that you have disappointed them (healing should come both ways). Ask them to counteract every thought in the future with this idea as a basis.
Announce: I am what I am. It might not be approved by you, but I, as your child, will follow my own path of life. Accept the I am what I am from your parent: I am what I am. It might disappoint you that I am not perfect, but I did what I thought to be best for me. I tried to follow my path of live and learn my lessons.

Both realize: if you were perfect in love, you wouldn?t be on earth.

Now with this done together, you both are free to see if there is another way of communicating, of being. Just discover if you are able to get to know each other. Maybe you see some attitudes, habits, silly things that eventually you are going to like from one and other. Built a new way of being together. Blood ties are very strong, but love ties go along where blood ties stop. It is time to become as adults together.

These are just the normal problems of being raised as a child by imperfect, not ready, not grown up people. Some other issues can take a hold on the relation. Some parents or children are expecting things, some are clinging to past and respect . Other are trying to have influence beyond their raising of the children just because of loneliness, fear, anger, old patterns of belief systems and so on. It should be advisable to clean all these issues in your part of a healthy relationship together.

If you look to the family issues through the ages, you see the patterns of drama?s, wounds and hurts throughout the family. Family history is very important to be known, for it gives a clue of your heritage of problems. It is advisable not to linger long on it, but knowing is important.

 

Healing the family heritage.

Every family has an family angel. This is known by the old traditions, and some of them have special rituals for these angels and their ancestries.

Start with the meditation for asking for help, because that is what you should do to become in contact with your family angel.

Go in your heart to the family house, logical it is a messy place right there, for you didn?t visit this place in a long while. Accidentally you have a candle with you, a white one. You light the candle in the house and say: I hereby ask my family angel for assistance. For I would like to bring the white light of the Creator, the light of illumination, to the family of my natal birth in this life. Please assist me in healing the family issues.

Place the candle in the middle of the room, sit next to it and wait. Just wait what happens.
The angel will come, but it might come in a different way. It might come within weeks or months with different messages. What is done in history, can?t be made undone in one minute. Wait if you get a message with a feeling, a color, a sensation, a knowing or by songs, conversations with strangers and so on.

Just go back in the normal way as mentioned in the asking for help meditation.

In time you may extend this meditation with the following:
- ask the family angel to assist with healing the family issues
- ask the family angel to assist with healing the causes of the family diseases
- ask the family angel to assist with the healing of the balance between parents and children
- ask the family angel to assist with healing the behavior patterns between you and your parents
- ask the family angel to assist with restoring on core level the programs of behaving
- ask the family angel to assist with restoring on core level the programs of interacting
- ask the family angel to assist with restoring on core level the programs of seeing
- ask the family angel to assist with restoring on core level the programs of thinking
- ask the family angel to assist with restoring on core level the programs of conceptualisation
- ask the family angel to assist with restoring on core level the programs of valuing
- ask the family angel to assist with restoring on core level the programs of feeling
- ask the family angel to assist with restoring on core level the programs of moving
- ask the family angel to assist with restoring on core level the programs of sensing
- ask the family angel to assist with restoring on core level the programs of DNA recording
- ask the family angel to assist with restoring on core level the DNA patterns
- ask the family angel to assist with restoring on core level the DNA
so that you may be restored to your original intent of being, being light, being God for the Good of all concerned.

Don?t forget this last sentence. Every part of it is another extension of the meditation. It is also another part of cleaning, being, restoring yourself, and takes a little while to work through. But is it is very worthwhile. You can?t do it all together.

Trust that you get all the help you need from your family angel to get through this reprogramming of yourself. This is a part of a new enterprise and everyone has its own roadmap. I can?t give you a precise route-map for it will differ from one family to another, and it will differ from one family member to the other. All can have different genes, with different information, with different influences and different things to heal. Just remember, DNA is not your connection or your building, it isn?t your map of being, it is just your library of where you come from. Change your history and in this now, you will change your future for better. With healing in the now, you change your history, recorded in you DNA. And that is all that matters in the now.

With love and blessings to all,
Ashtar.