Time management
Let’s talk priorities and time management and this in relation to time
to rest and relax from duties etc.
I will start with my normal straight forward way of speaking: if you are in balance you won’t
need time to rest and relax. Only when you do things that take you out of your
balance you need time to relax, to be back in balance. In that case what you
are doing is not a sport, not a joy, not a pleasure to do.
With saying this, let’s start the interesting part of time management.
What is time management more then setting your priorities so your ego won’t get
away with distracting you into business, doing busy things that don’t need to
be done? People who need time management have a big ego who is very good at distracting
you from your goal in life, in work etc. Your ego is very good in time
management and consuming your valuable time is one of its big goals. With
pleasure he or she distracts you into misuse of your time, your resources of
money, health etc.
Simply living in the now moment won’t help you for you are able to live
in the now moment, enjoy what you are doing and doing nothing worthwhile for
your own growth or soul. The ego is a very big and good player in every
circumstance, but that’s not an excuse (although your ego finds everything he
or she wants you to do a very good excuse to make you wander around and lose precious
time which you could use better for your soul work which you came to do upon
earth).
So with every task you do, you could ask yourself if it serves you and all
who are concerned for the good of all concerned. You would say, there is
nothing wrong with watching TV. I would state that there is everything wrong
with watching TV. And then again, seeing and pondering a life of a saint when
you watch TV is a good example for your life. When the TV is for leisure, fun
without any spiritual education, for resting and consuming imagines and while
being tired being programmed by hidden messages (or outspoken values like: you
have to be blond, slim with big boobs to be of value in the world) or getting
distraction from your own life (being boring, being dull, being on the run for
your own faults, mischief, and lack of a valued interesting life with
responsibility for yourself and your development as being towards your soul,
everything is against watching TV.
So TV is out, by now. VBS, who is rebelling against this statement?
Relax, it is just a remark and a question to think about. Watching TV is one of
the most time consuming things in western society. Life is so valuable and
being wasted on the couch sitting, eating junk food and watching TV is a pity
for the precious life you have been given, by God and your parents. Don’t complain
that your parents watch TV all the time so you don’t know any better. You do know, and complaining isn’t an excuse
either.
This gives me the big opportunity to start with my other topic of
wasting time: complaining, finding excuses, saying: I can’t change that, it is
as I am, I am like that, always, I can’t remember a time when it was different,
this is how I am raised. No excuse anymore. If you have to have a need for an
excuse, you didn’t consider your actions for the good of all concerned. No
question about it. Complaining, saying what you don’t want to say, idle talk,
gossiping, all are just excuses and wasting of time. Cut this back and you’ve
got enough time to do something more in your household, on meditating, or both
at the same time.
Complaining, watching TV, doing things you don’t want to do, all cost a
lot of energy, and wasting energy and time puts a stress upon you, a tension in
your system, and then you will lose time with being tired, being sick, having
chronic ailments and so on.
I know that Sai Baba has a program on cutting
back on energy (like wasting time, wasting money, wasting energy, wasting speech
and so on). He is quite right! Of course he is, that’s why he came here upon
Earth. For the ones who aren’t interested to see a representative of God
walking upon earth, like Jesus, Buddha, Krishna and so on (you forget to write
the Chinese name. I don’t know how to
spell it. You will find out, great example of love anyway), they can look
at each other and see the God in their neighbors, their hated family members
and then they are a bit closer to the God in themselves. And I don’t want to
state that when you are going to look at Sai Baba,
you won’t look at your neighbors for being representatives of God.
Next a big losing time issue: day dreaming as a nice thing to do. And it
is indeed relaxing for it takes you out of your own circumstances. Some of you
do it in the negative form: what if this happens... what if that terrible thing
happens... and what if this thing didn’t happen, would we be still together...?
And yes big songs and movies are made of this material. And yes, it is again a
waste of time, energy and money. So if you see yourself doing this, just stop
it. Of course you are the boss of yourself, who else?
So if we have reduced the bad habits, let us reduce the good habits.
Good habits are also a waste of time and ones energies, you will ask yourself?
Yes indeed they are. Let’s talk sports. What is good about sport? Training your
body, okay fine with me. When you do more then the necessary thing to keep your
body in good health? Doing your thing more then two times a week, or more then two
things or being addicted to run every day for 10 miles or more? Another thing:
keeping an eye on your intake of food. Fine with me too, but what if it becomes
offensive, consuming your ideas of having pleasure with food and eating? What
if eating takes all your time, or when counting calories takes all your time
and you can only think about being too fat or losing weight? Another nice thing
to do is taking time to meet with people, with friends, going for a social talk
to by example family. Some times it is very good, and at other times it just
consumes your time and energy for there is no reason for the good of all
concerned why you should get together at that time. And remarks like: they
expect me to do like this, when I don’t visit my mother twice a week she will bury
me (or she will feel neglected, alone etc).
Another good habit to reduce is taking care of others. Taking care of
others is fine as long it is for the good of all concerned, but too much is too
much. We could speak of respect for ones inner values and lessons. We also
could speak about time for yourself or not, energy for your own goal and only
be of help when asked by (human) nature and/or spirit.
When we see the wasting of energy, the priorities one has to set in one’s
life, you could ask yourself: what is really important so I save time, money
and energy? That all depends on the matters at hand in your life. For when being
too generous with money and time in helping people, saving time for oneself is
the idea. For being selfish and a big spender of money and time with shopping,
volunteer work is a good thing to spend time upon, and give money to. It
depends upon you and your attitude in life, your lessons you came to learn,
your blocks in energy which causes you tension and stress, the things your
diseases tell you and so on.
There is a good meditation as an example to figure these things out. If
I save my time, and I reduce energy loss for what shall I use it for the good
of all concerned? It might be a long road to figure this out, it maybe not. So
let’s start the meditation:
Sit relaxed (when not possible, figure out why with the meditations I
gave previously. Write everything that passes your mind on a piece of paper
while doing the exercises for releasing tension in your body. It will guide you
to the clue needed or to the next step).
Go to your inner garden. Next to your inner university, your inner
wisdom temple and to the temple of the God you are. With every place you follow
the following instructions:
Wander around in your inner garden (university etc), pay attention to
what you feel, see, experience. Try to figure out what you are able to do in
your daily life to pay homage to this place and what you are able to do in a
meditation (repeating sequence of meditations) to honor this place, to clean
it, to decorate it, to contribute to it. Ask if you can do something to honor
this place during daily life. See if you get a vision, an image, a feeling , a
color, a sound, a song etc. Any clue will do. Listen, be open and don’t let
your programming come between you and the answer.
When you have visited the inner garden and asked these questions, go
back to daily life, count back and take the clue you got into your hectic life
you are living. Ponder it during what you are doing, be quiet with this clue
upon your thought, think of it before you sleep. When you’ve got a better
understanding or when you feel you are ready for the next place, do just the
same as with the university. Don’t forget to write down the clues you get after
each mediation, so you are able to remember the clues right.
When you have visited each place and got the first clue, ask for
another, for with every progress you make you are able to receive other clues,
more deepening insights and so on. When you have had enough clues, or you won’t
get any, ask if you may remember a situation where you can reduce tension and
stress in your life or reduce wasting energy and time. Ask also for guidance
for the next time you hit upon a similar situation. Write down everything you
feel, think etc.
When you have finished this meditation, thank yourself, thank your
guidance, be thankful for the answers, clues you got, and thank, above all,
yourself and the good of all concerned.
Next, when you have finished this project, go back to all the places and
ask: if I save my time, and I reduce energy loss for what shall I use it for
the good of all concerned? Of course you are free to use other phrases which
suit you better. And you may of course start the previous meditation with this
sentence on your mind as programming and guidance instructions.
The splendid thing as result of these meditations will be that you got
little by little clues why you came upon earth, what your task is in life and
what your soul wants to give to you as guidance in your daily life with normal
circumstances everyone has to face.
Have a good time while pondering time and cutting back on waste and
overdo of things.
With love,
Ashtar.